The P.O.S.H. Life (Pursuit of Strength & Health)

Have you considered that we take dating too seriously? Wasn't there a day when you could just take a girl to dinner and enjoy her company without having to change your facebook status to "in a relationship?"

As my life is getting interesting by the minute; all the opportune time for me to get a girlfriend perhaps? That’s right…me…the habitual line stepper…is thinking about making that move and settle down like Guy said from “Let’s Chill.”

As I review the applicants I think I have found the one that can put up with my mess and can have fun, honestly share memories, experiences, etc. When guys are trying to get a girlfriend, I say let’s take it back to grade school, when things were a little more simple. When we used to pass notes that read:

Do you like me? Check Yes____ or No____

Do you want to be my Girlfriend? Check Yes____ or No____

Whatever happened to the good ol days?

When I look at the women I have dated in my past, I wish I had like a blueprint or manual that would have helped. From my experiences I realized that in this world of dating, three different groups of women exist. First allow me to thank singleblackman.net for this.

18-23 Women
She doesn’t know what she wants in life often and is still discovering herself. Sometimes she is lively, fully of energy, and looking to explore and see new things. She can be so much fun.
But … she is often immature and childish. Because she is discovering herself, her sense of self may be lacking. She doesn’t know what she wants, you can never read her, and she loves to play games. She loves to play games. She consults her “girlfriends” on everything, she is self consumed, and puts little value in the qualities that make a “good man”. She often wants someone to spoil her without her having to give anything in the relationship. Poor and misguided. Here you will find women who love the thug, and the wannabe gangster. Earning potential, manners, and acts of romance aren’t important … she is at her most superficial. Dating a woman in this age bracket is like playing Russian roulette. Just go…and walk away.

24 - 28
She has now realized what it actually takes to make a Good Man. She has some sense now … the superficial ways of her younger years is starting to melt away, she wants a good man who will treat her right, plus she is becoming independent too. She works, earns her own money, and finally isn’t dependent on other people in her life. She needs someone to complete her. I’ve always been rather cautious about dating women in this age bracket. In this particular age group, she says she keeps meeting jerks (the same ones she used to like), the good men are all taken, and all the good men that are available … want to stay available and don’t want a relationship.

It is during this age group that she wants to do the “girl trips.” Black Ski weekend...yup she’s there. Essence Festival…yup she’s there. All Star Weekend…um…yup...she’s there. It’s no wonder Facebook loves this demographic. She can be a little selfish at times, wanting the chivalry of the 50’s along with her newfound independence. She is often in desperate need of introspection. She complains there are no good men, but is usually not ready to handle the type of guys she wants. Such a shame.

29 & Up
Ah…home, sweet home. The needed introspection has usually occurred. She has come to terms with her own inadequacies and has finally thrown away the 3 page list of things her man must have. She finally knows what is important and has learned that she will attract someone who she is “ready” to handle. She also has learned to stop being selfish, she realizes she can’t just demand, demand, and demand some more … without giving back to her man in explicit and blatant ways … and expect it to work out. She is comfortable with herself, her body, and her sense of self-being. I like this age bracket because this type of woman is confident, but not arrogant. Giving, but not a push over. Opinionated, but not a know-it-all. She is balanced.

Hopefully my description said it all. So I’m choosing to stay with the 29 & Up group. The woman in this category is comfortable with herself and knows herself. For some reason, this means she knows how to treat a man. She isn’t just letting herself being walked over or chasing after guys like some desperate sex starved woman … but has balance in her life. These young girls are just too immature and selfish … sorry.

Looking forward to responses on this.