The P.O.S.H. Life (Pursuit of Strength & Health)

Becoming engaged is very exciting. Very few events in anyone's lifetime require as much thought and preparation as marriage. People want their proposals to be the perfect point of culmination in their relationship.

Men and women both want this day to be a truly memorable moment in their lives. Sure, getting down on one knee while holding a ring box sort of says it all. Unfortunately, some relationships change after a couple becomes engaged.
Have you ever had the experience of breaking an engagement or calling off the wedding with someone? For this discussion, let’s assume that it was *you* who broke off with her.

For example, for some time you were kind of nattering inside your head. She did this, and she did that, and you didn’t like it. And she won’t do this other, and that’s just stupid. And, frankly, you’ve just had it up to here.And so then you said, “We’ve got to talk,” and you did talk and most likely that wasn’t much fun (though sometimes it is). And then she said something and you said something, and then later she wasn’t there with you and the two of you had called everything off. Everything such as the engagement/wedding called off.

Now keep in mind that what you are about to do will be stressful, awkward, embarrassing and hurtful, and one of the hardest things you will ever have to do. But it will be good for you. How can calling off an engagement be good for you? Because you are listening to that inner voice that says, “Keep your heart, three stacks keep your heart."

In other words there is something internally telling you something is just not right. This woman may not be “the one.” Somehow you had convinced yourself that marrying this woman was the right thing to do and for months now, you've squelched that inner voice screaming "no."

As men we aspire at some point in our lives to quit "the game" and settle down with that one special lady. Marriage is a word that we all dread until suddenly, one day, it all makes sense and you pop the big question. When it’s right, it’s right. In reality, the act of being engaged doesn’t necessarily guarantee a happily ever after. If a pre-nuptial couple faces indisputable evidence that their relationship isn’t working, calling off the engagement is sometimes the healthier alternative to saying "I do" with reservations.

I have been quick to tell my boyz who have proposed to their “boo” to look at their potential mother-in-law to see what your future wife will become -- a classic warning sign.

Here are some of the signs that may indicate that you should consider calling off the wedding and ending your engagement.

1) The wedding ring symbolizes the two of you bonded together for the rest of your lives. It's placed on the ring finger of our left hand because it was believed that the “love vein” found there runs straight to your heart. That's pretty romantic...

So if she moans that the diamond isn't big enough or there aren't enough rocks, take note. If she continues to complain about her ring, here is your window of opportunity to throw up the deuces

2)Her obsessive, over controlling side doesn't paint a very pretty picture of future domestic bliss. Instead, images of a hen-pecked, beaten-down husband spring to mind. Things to really watch out for include a no-drinking rule, limiting the number of your buddies and insisting that she choose your clothes on a daily basis

3) Everybody around you is telling you your girlfriend is not for you. Yes, I know it’s you who’s in love with her, not them. But if everybody thinks there’s something wrong with her, perhaps they’re right. Don’t forget that third party opinions are usually more objective than yours.

4) She is a bit crazy/unstable or has major character flaws. Remember…you don’t need any more emotional baggage in your life. Is she has a habit of lying and being deceptive. Remember, what is past is prologue.

5) She likes you because your income potential. This is a no brainer. Grant it love doesn’t pay the bills, but a man should spend the rest of his life with a woman who likes him, flaws and all. Not because you make a nice salary, and have the appearance of financial security. Marriage is a serious commitment, not to be taken lightly. As such, make sure you are wedding your loved one for all the right reasons and save yourself years of frustrating conflicts in the future. With half of all marriages ending in divorce, thinking before acting is not an option, it's a moral responsibility.

Remember, a broken engagement is better than a broken marriage